Having sex with someone is easy but being in love with someone is hard.
Well, having sex with someone is still something serious. Casual sex and hook ups are evident nowadays. Wanting to have sex with someone you like is definitely a call of nature but that doesn’t mean that you love them. Someone could love a person wholeheartedly even if they won’t have sex with that person yet.
It sucks that some people just engage in relationships because they just want someone who would be constantly there for them whenever they need someone; most especially when they feel horny. That shouldn’t be how relationships work. You should be in a relationship because you are madly in love with the person who is your other half.
Here Are 18 Secrets Guys Wish You Knew
1. Guys Will Talk About Feelings
It may be easier for your guy to talk about feelings indirectly. Ask what he would do on a romantic weekend. Or what he thought when he first met you. His answers will reveal how he feels and bring you closer.
2. Guys Say “I Love You” With Actions
Some men prefer to express their feelings through actions rather than words. Your guy may say “I love you” by fixing things around the house, cleaning up the yard, or even taking out the trash – all that makes your world a better place.
3. Guys Take Their Commitment Seriously
Guys have a reputation for fear of bonding. But the evidence suggests that men take marriage seriously. They may take longer to capture because they want to make sure they are on board forever. In a survey of currently married men, 90% said they would marry the same woman again.
4. He Really Listens
If you listen to someone who talks, you probably come up with a “yes” or “I see” every now and then. It’s your way of saying, “I’m listening.” But some guys don’t do this. Just because a guy says nothing doesn’t mean he doesn’t listen. He may prefer to listen quietly and think about what you are saying.
5. Bonds Shared Activity Form
Guys strengthen their relationships mainly through shared activities more than by sharing thoughts or feelings. For many men, activities such as sports and sex make them feel closer to their partner.
6. Guys Need Time For Themselves
While shared activities are important, guys also need time for themselves. Whether your guy likes golf, gardening, or working out at the gym, encourage him to pursue his hobbies while making time for yourself. When both partners have the space to cherish their individuality, they have more to give each other.
7. Guys Learn From Their Father
If you want to know how a guy will act in a relationship, get to know his father. Some say that guys learn their relationship role by looking at and listening to their fathers. How they interact and how the father relates to the mother can predict how a man will relate to his wife.
8. Guys Release Faster Than Women
Women tend to remember negative experiences longer and may have persistent feelings of stress, anxiety or sadness. Guy, on the other hand, are less likely to linger on unpleasant events and progress faster. So while you may still want to talk about last night’s argument, your guy may have already forgotten.
9. Guys Do Not Record Subtle Signals
Guys rather miss subtle signals such as voice or facial expressions. And they will especially miss grief on a woman’s face. If you want to make sure your husband gets the message, be direct.
10. Guys Respond To Appreciation
Showing appreciation for your guy can make a big difference in the way he acts. Take parenting. Studies show that fathers are more involved in caring when their wives value their involvement and consider them competent.
11. Guys Think About Sex A Lot
Majority of guys under 60 think about sex at least once a day, compared to only a quarter of women. And that’s not all: guys fantasize about sex almost twice as often as women, and their fantasies are much more varied. They also think more about casual sex than women. But thinking is not the same as doing.
12. Guys Find Sex Important
It’s a myth that most guys think sex is just sex. For many, sex is a very important act between two people involved. And like most women, men find sexual intimacy most satisfying in the context of a committed relationship. One of the reasons is that long-term partners can please each other better than strangers.
13. Guys Likes It When You Start Having Sex
Most guys feel like they are the ones who always start having sex. But they also enjoy being prosecuted and wish their partner to take charge more often. Don’t be shy about letting your guy know you’re in the mood. Sometimes initiating sex will lead to a higher degree of satisfaction for both of you.
14. Guys Aren’t Always Up For Sex
Guys, much to the surprise of women, are not always in the mood for sex. Like women, men are often stressed by the demands of work, family, and paying the bills. And stress is a great libido crusher. If a guy says “not tonight,” it doesn’t mean he’s no longer interested in you. He just means he doesn’t want to have sex at the time.
15. Guys Like To Please Their Partner
Your pleasure is important to your guy. But he doesn’t know what you want unless you tell him. Too many women feel uncomfortable talking about what they like and don’t like. If you can clearly tell him in a way that does not damage his ego, he will listen. Because he knows he will feel good if you feel good.
16. Guys Get Performance Anxiety
Most guys occasionally experience performance anxiety, especially as they get older. Your guy may be concerned about his physique, technique and stamina. If you can help him to relax and stay focused on the pleasures of the moment, sex will become less stressful.
17. Guys Can Stray When The Needs Are Not Met
If a guy doesn’t feel loved and appreciated in his relationship, he can go elsewhere for satisfaction. For one man, that could mean burying himself at work. Another can develop a fixation on sports or video games. And some guys cheat. To avoid this, partners must work together to meet each other’s needs.
18. He Is Nestled In You
Most guys realize there’s a lot to lose when a long-term relationship turns sour – not just each other’s business, but the whole life you’ve built together. If you’re willing to work to strengthen your marriage, chances are your guy will be too.